What I’m going to focus on today is going to make some people catch feelings, but nevertheless truth must be said. When one is telling the truth they should never be apologetic, as it’s the only way they will be able to help others acknowledge it.
Today’s topic deals with the sad truth about some youngsters that have feelings that are triggered by the sight of luxury, money, cars and all sorts of riches a man holds.
Seeing a man that is well off and is ready to spend and give whatever a girl asks for if she agrees to sleep with him, brings such strong and strange desires to some girls that it is confusing whether material hunting is what they live for, or why would anyone let their self-worth be sold?
Parties are famous for these sorts of mediocre desires to be expressed. This is where most pick-ups happen. A person knows perfectly well that he/she arrived at that party alone, but at the end of the day they leave with someone with the intention of having a sexual encounter with them for that night.
Most girls agree to be part of this if the guy promised to give [them] some money in return, or if the guy has been spending on them for the night then they usually feel like he makes money rain.
So the lamest excuse is that the guy has a car. I mean his car is his and “his” will never be converted to “ours”, just because you slept with him.
One thing that we need to comprehend is the fact that wealth is not sexually transmitted, so it’s about time we consider stopping the trend of sleeping around for money.
Some people do it simply because they would like to buy the next trending dressing code, or the most expensive hair – all apparently to slay, because everybody else is slaying nowadays.
It would be understandable if it was done by someone with deeper and understandable needs, like paying school fees or so – although I am strongly against this – it is just to emphasise that this is immoral and mostly it is us, girls, that are downgraded, ripped naked and get bad labels.
Take the leaked videos, for instance, that have been spreading like wildfire recently. Girls are the main characters in these videos and it’s sad to acknowledge that it is some of the very boys one went into agreement with, who are behind this exposure.
Ladies, you need to have self-respect, self-love and self-worth. That should stop you from performing such vile acts. Road gigs are neither worth any girl’s time, nor our energy, not to mention that even the thought of it should disgust you.
Strange things happen that shouldn’t have happened in the first place. What do you know about this stranger that has the guts to ask you for a one-night stand? Their intentions may be dreadful, so avoid mishaps that are avoidable and live by principles.
Monika Ulitala Martin is an aspiring writer and second-year BA degree student at the Namibia University of Science and Technology. Every week she focuses on a different topic to inspire young people.