In some societies and communities, it is culturally taboo to have a conversation about death, and often when people do, it is just in general terms. 

There has always been a mysterious sense of position and temperature adopted when it comes to this subject. It remains such a tough mental route to take because, in most cases, it always ends up either in moments of overwhelming emotions, or fear.

This is the position that most people are likely to take when it comes to the subject of death. It is for the same reasons that we subconsciously continue living as if we are immortal. This is to the point that even when we hear of the death of another, we briefly talk about it, change the topic, and go on as if it is only other people who die.

It is also easier to talk about death in general than it is to reflect on our own death, or imagine the death of a loved one. However, the fact of the matter is that it is the only thing that is certain. That one day everyone around us may transition before us, or we may even transition to other realms earlier than them.

Now, in a world where we are divided, polarised and continuously tossed against one another due to so many societal constructs, death should be our unifier. It should be one aspect that brings us back to our senses, and help us rediscover our existential purpose. 

It is one aspect that can fundamentally change our perspective on life, and the way we perceive one another. It is one aspect that could help us learn to be kinder, more loving and caring for others for we know that our time on earth is brief, and it’s better spent creating fond memories.

To be kinder, more loving and accommodating sets precedence to a more peaceful world as well as goodbyes than to have regrets at the passing of another. It would be better to have memories of words of inspiration and encouragement shared with another person, than to regret the words we wish to have not said, or the grudges we should not have held ,and they end up haunting us for the rest of our earthly lives.

Tough as it may be, we should be encouraged to have discourse about death not only with others, but even more, with ourselves. This is not only important as preparation for any eventualities, but also that it may be the one thing that may fundamentally make us change our life course. 

It may become one of the aspects of life that may help transform us into a better society that is more interconnected and values the existence of every other human being – especially when we may take note that in about 120 years from now, none of us will be alive. 

If knowing this, alone, does not humble us enough, then nothing else will because after we are all gone, nothing will matter – not the opinions of non-existent people who live in our imaginations, the self-limiting beliefs we may have about ourselves or the opinions we may have about others.

*Uncommon Sense is published bi-weekly in the New Era newspaper with contributions from Karlos Naimwhaka. YouTube channel: Karlos Lokos

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