Ever heard of the term “Books before boys”? I definitely have, from friends and quoted in almost every teenage girl’s diary. But do we really follow the advice or just want to show our friends that we too are familiar with the term?
I, for one, was very familiar with the quote. I used it whenever there was a street debate regarding boys and girls, or how girls were so much into boys and forgot about school. In most instances, the boys were right because as girls, we have a tendency to put boys before books in the hope that the boys will be our future.
Take for instance a girl who has just started her first year at varsity. She has all her study materials, just received her timetable and has a lot of free time, but instead of investing this time in research, be it at the library or other organisations, she decides to give all her time to a boy, who by the way is almost done with his studies and has very few classes to attend.
The worst part about this is that the guy has very few modules to study for and can always catch up with his books, whereas the girl on the other hand is so lost in “love” she hardly has time to focus on her books. What I have learnt is that men will always be there. Whether one leaves the country and comes back after a decade, there will still be willing men out there.
Men are not interested in a girl with no future, who is only interested in sitting in the front passenger seat sipping on a cold Hunters Dry with Ray Bans as huge as her face. A man only wants that in the “meantime”, while he looks for the “permanent” woman who has established herself.
So pretty girl, before you go around missing classes to meet a man who is halfway there, think about the time wasted, which can never return. Varsity becomes more expensive by the year and there will not always be money for you to return to school, so think about that.
I live by a very special quote: “Be the woman every man wishes to be his wife”, not a girlfriend, that is a temporary title and can be taken away from you anytime. Create a name for yourself for good reasons, don’t be that girl.
Delphinam Muleke, 22, is employed at Otjiwarongo Magistrate’s Court and has a passion for creative writing. She writes to relax, to reflect on her daily life and to inspire others.