Experiencing heartbreak and betrayal in relationships has deeply affected many individuals in Namibia and beyond. 

The emotional wounds from failed romance and deep betrayal feel overwhelming, with the pain, anger, and grief seeming endless. 

This often results in feelings of sadness, depression, and a range of physical symptoms. Suppressing these emotions prolongs the suffering, and continuously dwelling on the pain prevents the wounds from healing. 

During these times, the urge to quickly get over it and be strong is intense. 

However, healing is not a race, and there is no reward for moving on the quickest. 

Everyone processes heartbreak in their own way and at their own pace. 

A breakup can be incredibly challenging, whether it is a long-term relationship or a brief romance. 

The end of a relationship can significantly impact your mental health. 

It is essential to prioritise your mental health and self-love during the healing process. 

It’s normal to feel lost, alone, and heartbroken after a breakup. 

However, prioritising self-love during this time is crucial, as it is the best way to heal. 

Healing is absolutely possible, and you may even discover that you can become a better version of your self through the healing process.

The end of a relationship is a natural part of life. You must possess the strength and resilience to move forward and create a new life for yourself. 

There is ample time to find love, and you may discover it in various fulfilling forms throughout your life. 

Your previous relationship does not define you. Let go of the past and focus on the present and the future. 

You might find a soul mate in a best friend or someone you haven’t met yet. 

It is essential to dedicate time to focus on yourself and your mental health and seek support when needed. 

By prioritising self-love and personal growth, you can come out of a breakup stronger and happier than ever before.

Be patient with yourself, as healing is a process that requires time. Allow yourself to fully experience the emotions that arise. 

Take the opportunity to reflect on your past relationships, consider what you desire in future ones, and absorb the lessons you have learned along the way. 

Prioritise personal growth, take this time to explore new activities, set new goals, and establish healthy boundaries. 

Rather than seeking a new relationship right away, use this period to cultivate a strong and fulfilling relationship with yourself.

Be kind to yourself. Refrain from being overly harsh or blaming yourself for the end or betrayal of the relationship. 

Keep in mind that it takes two people to make a relationship work. Avoid contact with your ex-partner, give yourself some space and time away from your ex-partner. 

This may not be easy, but creating distance between you and your former partner can expedite your healing journey. 

Taking this step allows you to focus on your well-being and move forward more effectively. 

Also, maintain a positive outlook, keep a positive attitude, and focus on the good aspects of your life. 

Remember, things will improve over time. 

It is crucial to honour your emotions and acknowledge a broken heart. 

Allow yourself to express your emotions. If you are feeling emotional, embrace those feelings, process them, and eventually let them go. 

*Elizabeth Ndeshifiilwa Andreas is pursuing a Master’s Degree in Inclusive Education at UNAM and holds a Bachelor’s Degree in HIV/AIDS Management, and a Bachelor’s Degree in Junior Primary Education.