Cheating was a man’s thing in the past, even our forefathers used to cheat. In fact they had more than one or two wives but recently even ladies are cheating.
Men want to know why. Society has a tendency of blaming genes or DNA. They say cheating is in the men’s DNA, but I totally disagree. I would say it is a behaviour that is observed and it is learned from the environment, and tolerated and then we are all made to believe it is natural.
You know a bit of something always becomes a habit – a first time cheater who has watched his dad, his brother, his friends cheat and got away with it, will try cheating today, tomorrow, bit by bit till it becomes a habit, and it will be very hard to control. Just like people get addicted to drugs and alcohol, you can get addicted to cheating as well once you are in it. It will be hard for you to come out, but it does not mean you can never stop, it all depends on one person to another.
So now women have started cheating as well for various reasons, of which some of them are: for revenge – you cheated so I am going to cheat as well, coz women are tired of tolerating cheating men, though this may come with consequences.
Some women get into a relationship expecting a full package, good sex, fat wallet and everything else they want from a man and when one or two of that is absent, she will go look for it somewhere else, especially money and sex, that is why they have a guy who takes them wherever they want, buy them Brazilians, and then another who gives it to them, the way they like it.
Thirdly, distance relationships do work. People can be tempted, especially if you don’t communicate more often, or you don’t see each other and there is this neighbour who is so muscular, charming, who has been trying his luck with her. The devil can tempt her one day and she will decide to try, and then she will try again and again till it becomes a habit. So the more they do these, the more it becomes a habit – they become so addicted to it that it will be hard to stop and society will again come up with an excuse that it is in the DNA of some women to cheat.
Our young sisters are watching and they are learning, and the generations to come will accept it and live by it, and then in the future just like it has become natural for men to cheat it’s going to be natural for women to cheat, another excuse to justify that kind of behaviour.
Cecilia Namakasa