Resilience is the ability to keep getting up, no matter how many times you fall. It is the most important characteristic to master in life. It is not the man who has no challenges that wins in life, but it is the man who falls but always gets back up who wins. Resilience is a skill that once you master sets you up to always keep winning at the game of life.
Understand and accept the biggest truth. Life is unfair. Know and understand that life will break you; it’s inevitable nor avoidable. Prepare for things to go wrong and prepare to bounce back, no matter what. No one’s life is a walk in the park. Everyone has a cross to carry. Some are bigger than others. Stop denying the existence of that cross, and stop complaining about how big your cross is compared to everyone else’s. It is what it is, accept it and make the most of what you have. Run your race. You will trip, stumble and fall flat on your face, but always keep getting up, dust yourself off, and keep going.
Learn the lessons that life is trying to teach you. If not, you will keep tripping over the same rocks over and over until you do. Learning the lessons helps you re-evaluate, re-examine and make a new and improved plan that can set you up for success. Feel the pain, the hurt and the disappointment. Feel through it, grow through it, and go through it.
Always anticipate the highs and lows of life. Expecting your life to always go great is delusional. If you do not anticipate the lows, when they do come around, they will knock you out because you were never ready. Similarly, if you are going through the lows in life, anticipate things to get better, good and even great.
Lastly, become an active participant in your life. Stop letting life happen to you, and start making things happen in your life. You are in the driver’s seat. Take the wheel of your life, and drive yourself to the life you want to live. Do not be a bystander and watch your life and opportunities drive past you. Become the creator of the change you want to see. If you are not an active participant in your life, are you even living it? Enjoy the highs and grow through the lows to live an extraordinarily inspiring life.
* Adelheid Hoabes is a legally-blind transformational life coach and motivational speaker.